One advice that I’d like to give to married couples is to never stop dating. Always make sure you are pursuing your spouse – every day. And one of the best way’s to do that is to never stop dating.
Why keep dating you ask?
When you’re dating, you’re learning new things about one another. You’re finding out what each other likes, dislikes, favourite things to do, favourite movies, etc. It’s an exciting period, isn’t it? There’s a thrill of learning about a new person. It’s exhilarating. But like all things, new things eventually become old. And like with most things, once things become old, they become neglected, forgotten about and worst, taken for granted. That’s dangerous ground. When you start taking each other for granted, you start treating each other with less love and respect. You may treat each other more harshly. You may become ungrateful.
Bring on the dates!
A good practice is to have weekly dates with your spouse. This doesn’t mean you need to go out and spend lots of money nor does it mean you need to spend lots of time either. It’s a night where you spend quality time with each other. Maybe it’s doing something you love together. Maybe it’s as simple as sharing a heart to heart. No matter what it is, block of a night a week to just be alone together – no cell phones, no kids, just quality time with the Mr. or Mrs.
One thing my wife and I do once a month is have a “monthiversary”. Every 3rd of the month, we celebrate the start of our dating period. We started dating on the 3rd and we’ve kept this practice for the past seven years – ever since we started dating! Every 3rd, we will go out on a date to celebrate our monthiversary. We’ll talk to each other about highlights about the marriage and most of all, simply enjoy spending time with one another. That’s the key. We look forward to it every month and we always block it off on the calendar. It’s intentional and everyone knows we do that.
What are your best date ideas? Feel free to comment and share them with our readers!